In this Marital Moment I will continue on with the topic of "Becoming One" by looking at The Developing Of Oneness. The Bible states in Genesis 2:24 that, "A man shall leave his father and mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh". Becoming One is a life long process that takes much time and effort if it is ever achieved. I have already given you two thoughts on the Developing of Oneness but permit me to briefly restate them again. (1) You Become One By Disconnectin From Things That Hinder Oneness. (2) By Meeting Each Others Needs You Develop Oneness. Lets continue on in our study of this im-portant topic. (3) By Becoming Transparent To Enhance Oneness. Genesis 2:15 declares that, "They were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not asham-ed". The word "naked" implies more than just the absence of clothing. It implies that they had no hidden areas, no hang-ups, no embarrassments, and no fears. They were totally transparent. Thus they had unrestrained freedom. They shared all of life together. There was nothing covered. Nothing held back from each other. There were no scars and no skeletons in the closets. When sin entered the picture it created shame, guilt, fear, and self-consciousness. Sin begin to chip away at the oneness that Adam and Eve enjoyed. Sin will always destroy the close love and fellowship between husband and wife. As you become one flesh you begin to break down the wall of separation. You become open and transparent with each other. Transparency takes time, effort, and much discipline. It does not happen over night, but it can become the norm for your marriage with a lot of effort on your part. (4) By Conquering Problems That Destroy Oneness. Your home has lots of problems that would conquer and destroy. These must be identified and eliminated if you would have a successful marriage. Entertainment, people, debt, work schedules, laziness, anger, out of control emotions all combine to destroy the home. Be diligent and guard carefully your home. It is too important to allow the problems of life to hinder, conquer, and destroy your marriage. ( 5) Be Commited To A Life Long Process Of Learning To Become One. A couple does not leave the marriage altar automatically one flesh. It is a life long process of learning and caring that enables you to become one. Make this a priority in you home. Take the time and effort to develop this oneness. It pays great dividends. Re-member: If you would "Become One" you must be Committed To Developing Oneness.
